Men have a bad reputation for cheating on their girlfriends. The reason has always been an unsolved problem among the women's conversations. However, even if they are more prone to this, their attitudes are something they cannot control and therefore end up delating.
Monogamy, whether in marriage or as a relationship, is the only type of sexual relationship that society as a whole accepts openly. But, although most men and women want to have only one partner - they seek to be monogamous - infidelity is a common practice, socially ill seen, but widespread and common. Why do we deceive our partners if we really want to continue with them? Here are some articles on what reasons men have to cheat his partner.
Infidelity produces a significant breach of trust and a strong emotional impact, where the surprise factor also plays a transcendent role. On a cognitive level, the deceived person tends to have recurrent thoughts about this event. These intrusive thoughts, mentally reviewed dialogues, dates, and situations in which there could be lies, are very frequent and significantly interfere with the concentration and mental functioning of the person.
At the behavioral level, if the couple has not separated, there may be hypervigilance in order to make sure that the other relationship has ended. This can be manifested through constant questions about what happened, control bills, mobile phone, agenda, schedules etc. It tends to live in a continuous distrust, where the need for control becomes an obsession.
Aggression, reproaches and violent arguments also occur frequently. At the physical level, sleep and appetite alterations may appear, as well as psychosomatic reactions (abdominal pain, diffuse pains, palpitations, etc.).
On an emotional level, it is common to suffer anxiety and depression. Feelings of anger, shame, resentment, jealousy, disbelief and strong lowering of self-esteem are also very present.
In short, the person who suffers infidelity from their partner can live a very strong stress experience; for all these reasons, the psychological effects have been compared with those of post-traumatic stress disorder due to the great impact it produces in the person, as well as the common symptoms that occur.
Overcoming an infidelity is a very difficult and long process and in many cases, psychological treatment is required, either to initiate the separation process or to fight for a reconciliation and reconstruction of the relationship. Here we have focused on the role of the person "betrayed", but we must also address the pain of the unfaithful part and the feeling of guilt that they may be suffering.
The end of this process will be forgiveness; with this, we are not referring to continue with the relationship, or to reconcile, but to resolve a conflict and recover from emotional wounds that have occurred.