Braking Point-Why do we stay in bad relationships? (10)

Why do we stay in bad relationships? Unhealthy relationships? Why is it so hard to walk away from someone that you know for multiple facts they are not good to you. They cheat, lie, mentally emotionally scar you traumatic none stop self a** people. There unwilling to change or actually do any work to grow with you claiming that love u. Yet.. For some stupid reason I'm saying the same bs, thinking I know as a grown man your not possibly that stupid to not know what your doing, how your hurting me and acting as if your not doing what your doing!? Still I kept trying, being in a relationship over 20yr Isn't something u just throw away right? Been years of destruction do you just give up? How do u walk away from people who blindly carelessly just keep crushing ur heart? Why do I stay? Why do I do this to myself?
I mean at this point enough is enough ya know,right? People force you to not be apart of them there life because they are so clueless, selfish and only care of there own needs,then turn around blame you! As if you have a choice?! How's there a choice for me? I'm not unrealistic reasonable for unfair right? Please tell me?! Walking away was the right thing to do period! Right?

Good Gawd!... move on! while your still young!....
I have never stuck around... life is to short to put up with any of what your describing....

Some people don't believe in divorce. (1 Corinthians 7:10-11)

What you right is a reason not to marry in the first place.
Matthew 19:10 and 1 Corinthians 7:1 as well as 1 Corinthians 7:39-40 all suggest it is better not to marry and that you will be happier not to marry. But you speak of God first in your profile. The idea in the Bible is that sex be in marriage. The Bible is full of ideas that people little follow such as Exodus 22:16 and Deuteronomy 22:28-29 and Exodus 21:11 and Deuteronomy 24:1-4. But no one much wants to follow Bible teachings.

It seems like most marriages go the way of divorce, and the ones that don't, should.

What you write is reason not to marry in the first place.

What you write hits me like a bag of dicks. Except I feel this from the other partners side. I'm not trying to be destructive , I love my wife. This stupid fucking negative cycle we repeatedly find ourselves in runs too deep (identifying it as the "nega-loop"). Complex truama triggers and responses, reactions, to Cptsd... enmeshment.. annihilation, perceived annihilation.. shutting down to survive, not wanting to disappear.. its fucked. 10 years and it's come to this and we are both stuck. There's more to the story but the role of a**hole is mostly played by yours truly. I guess I'm just venting and saying your not alone in this kind of experience.

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Why do we stay in bad relationships? Unhealthy relationships? Why is it so hard to walk away from someone that you know for multiple facts they are not good to you. They cheat, lie, mentally emotionally scar you traumatic none stop self a** people. There unwilling to change or actually do any work to grow with you claiming that love u. Yet.. For some stupid reason I'm saying the same bs, thinking I know as a grown man your not possibly that stupid to not know what your doing, how your hurting me and acting as if your not doing what your doing!? Still I kept trying, being in a relationship over 20yr Isn't something u just throw away right? Been years of destruction do you just give up? How do u walk away from people who blindly carelessly just keep crushing ur heart? Why do I stay? Why do I do this to myself?
I mean at this point enough is enough ya know,right? People force you to not be apart of them there life because they are so clueless, selfish and only care of there own needs,then turn around blame you! As if you have a choice?! How's there a choice for me? I'm not unrealistic reasonable for unfair right? Please tell me?! Walking away was the right thing to do period! Right?

Hey hands. I'm PNP man. Hey wanna chat some?

Relationships are almost always bad because of power struggles. But why do we have power struggles and what should we do to fix them? First we need to understand why and where they come from. Most power struggles come from women fighting against men and the reason for that is because feminism has taught women that in the relationship they are equal.

Unfortunately that's never going to work because there needs to be a hierarchy and someone has to be at the top of that hierarchy. So the question then becomes who? That's easy because hands down it should be the man because he's going to make his decisions based on logic wear as she would make them based on her emotions and so you could end up with a different decision everyday, every hour or every minute based on any number of reasons including her monthly cycle and none of which having anything to do with logic.

God in his infinite wisdom set up the hierarchy in these scriptures:

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body.” (Eph 5:22-23)

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.” (Col 3:18)

“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands.” (I Pet 3:1)

“Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.” (I Cor 11:9)


But it's not a one-way street. In return for submission the man has responsibilities also:

“Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife sees that she reveres her husband.” (Eph 5:33)

“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner “ (I Pet 3:7)

“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. “ (Col 3:19)

“So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church.” (Eph 5:28-29)

Satan sought to destroy the family unit by first creating the Suffrage movent and convincing enough people to give women the right to vote and contrary to what most people are told women back then had a very good life and by all measure of happiness were far better then compared to today. Many women back then fought against the suffrage movement and where called anti suffragettes.

Satan then created feminism which has now succeeded in destroying the family and women's happiness. Sadly most women don't recognize why they are so unhappy because they continue to believe the rhetoric they are being fed. They're are being told to blame everything else except the real reasons for it. Women's own emotions are being manipulated and used against them which is why they so easily believe the lies they're being fed.

There are many more things that Satan does to manipulate relationships but those are the major ones. Sadly unless women are willing to give up all this perceived power they think they have then the world will ending in the very near future. The population is unsustainable at the current birthrate levels except for in a few countries mainly the Muslim ones. Men are walking away from long term relationships in western countries because women are becoming more and more unattractive to them. Men don't want bossy women, men want feminine women, but women think acting like men makes them more attractive but it doesn't and that's just one of the many reasons leading to the downfall of western civilization.

So sounds like you are emotionally confused, but from what i am reading you should walk away. I get not leaving and hoping they will change or know your worth, but if they had that in the beginning then you wouldnt be here writing this. I dont know you but oddly enough i feel we have met, recently actually. Anyhow i think you are fucking stellar and would like to know more. Im chris. And i would of messaged you but your requirements keep me from doing that. Im more then 75 miles. But if you came to live with me that wouldnt be an issue...lol. 😘😘😘

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elationships? Unhealthy relationships? Why is it so hard to walk away from someone that you know for multiple facts they are not good to you. They cheat, lie, mentally emotionally scar you traumatic none stop self a** people. There unwilling to change or actually do any work to grow with you claiming that love u. Yet.. For some stupid reason I'm saying the same bs, thinking I know as a grown man your not possibly that stupid to not know what your doing, how your hurting me and acting as if your not doing what your doing!? Still I kept trying, being in a relationship over 20yr Isn't something u just throw away right? Been years of destruction do you just give up? How do u walk away from people who blindly carelessly just keep crushing ur heart? Why do I stay? Why do I do this to myself?
I mean at this point enough is enough ya know,right? People force you to not be apart of them there life because they are so clueless, selfish and only care of there own needs,then turn around blame you! As if you have a choice?! How's there a choice for me? I'm not unrealistic reasonable for unfair right? Please tell me?! Walking away was the right thing to do period! Right?

We stay due to fear. Sometimes people are in bad situationships because that’s all they know, others stay because the thought of starting all over only to end up with same type of person is exhausting. Sometimes that’s our family trauma our fathers were not good example. That’s the reason it’s important not to fight with our spouse in front of our kids. Your daughter will find a man like you your son will test his wife how he saw threat his mother and the curse continues. You got to built boundaries giving yourself worth by being stern in those boundaries morals and integrity. The moment there a red flag you speak o it on what your not gonna to tolerate. A lot of times our partners will pay head games so develop low self esteem and you believe then they one. Each to spot a good person ovef z bad one the put downs the taunting. A real partner. Never lets you give, he will make you feel heard and understood there’s no confusion he or she takes your issues seriously finds solution's. If you don’t get that from a partner stop wasting your time