Why is online dating too difficult to maintain? (14)

So like I've been on and off in online dating for years now. I'm 23 now and I started like 17 or almost 18 I think? Sure, I've met some guys online but never in person since I really wanted to be with a foreigner. Even just talking online, I too had to deal with heartaches as well.

What's your story? Or do you have something to say or give advice perhaps?

Hello... I have tried this online dating before. I just signed up again... Honestly there are just too many flakes and weirdos in the world. The digital world makes it easy for these people to cause trouble... It is difficult to find someone Honest and True online, not impossible; just very hard... I have no words of wisdom for you... I guess just use your intuition...

For me online dating isn't all that difficult to maintain,I was once on Asia date and ofc there were some pretty weird people but most of them are not all that harmfull and sometimes fun and funny .your story?

Quote:
So like I've been on and off in online dating for years now. I'm 23 now and I started like 17 or almost 18 I think? Sure, I've met some guys online but never in person since I really wanted to be with a foreigner. Even just talking online, I too had to deal with heartaches as well.

What's your story? Or do you have something to say or give advice perhaps?

. So there's a couple of rules that are not supposed to be talked about ( which by the way I don't go buy ) marriage, religion, politics. Now what said, when a women we haven't spenf time in the physical starts to talk about marrieg it red flag, this means desperate, marriage alarm is going of meaning there no love in that thought just the idea of marriage. I don't mind taking about p

Quote:
So like I've been on and off in online dating for years now. I'm 23 now and I started like 17 or almost 18 I think? Sure, I've met some guys online but never in person since I really wanted to be with a foreigner. Even just talking online, I too had to deal with heartaches as well.

What's your story? Did these men try to get anything from you ? Iike some kind of gift google card or your phone co information? Amazon card.

Quote:
So like I've been on and off in online dating for years now. I'm 23 now and I started like 17 or almost 18 I think? Sure, I've met some guys online but never in person since I really wanted to be with a foreigner. Even just talking online, I too had to deal with heartaches as well.

What's your story? Or do you have something to say or give advice perhaps?

First of all, wow, you were underage when you first signed up for online dating site. That was illegal. I am not sure about where you are from but here in the US, have to be 18 or older to do so. Second of all, good thing now you are an adult. You are young, you got time, and you really want to marry a foreigner, well, be careful. If you want to marry an American, it is getting tougher now due to tougher immigrant laws and more red tape. Many countries are feeling the heat too. Europe is facing that problem right now. Second of all, you met men online but never in person. Ok, I have experience with online dating for long time and have observed how all this function. Many men you have met and you chatted a lot. It is morning there, evening here or evening there, morning here (I am in East coast USA which is 12 hours behind your time). Timing is tough. Most men work during the day while it is evening and freetime for you to chat. The other thing is when you have had met men online and never in person is because this is a very HUGE investment. I have written an e-book regarding this called, "To Marry or Not to Marry a Foreign Bride" and this deals with investments, timing, and type of relationship. The farther apart each other, the harder it is. Say, for me, it will cost me about 3 to 5 thousand dollars for a single trip. Say staying for 3 weeks to 4 weeks and no way I can get to know you equal to a year to two years IN PERSON if I met someone locally. Then the man has to spend a lot of money to apply for K1 visa including application, lawyer fees, application fees, paying for your airfare to come here to marry within 90 days of approval. Today in Western nations more and more are unemployed or underemployed. IN the US, the groom has to have at least 15,000 dollars annually to sponsor his newly wedded foreign bride. I know life is tough in the Philippines and I never been there however, I understands your life because I went on missions to Central America and its very similar economically, culture (Spanish and a lot of English speaking people in Central America). So, I know. I like to say more but I made some good points here. But I pray you will have success in marrying a foreign man. By the way K1 visa takes 8 to 16 months to process and waiting that long time. So... is this worth it? Also some men you may have talked to are married men. I heard horror stories from Filipinas. One got caught and expelled from the Phils. And she was stuck with being separated. Cant afford to have an annulment to end her marriage.

Quote:

Quote:
So like I've been on and off in online dating for years now. I'm 23 now and I started like 17 or almost 18 I think? Sure, I've met some guys online but never in person since I really wanted to be with a foreigner. Even just talking online, I too had to deal with heartaches as well.

What's your story? Or do you have something to say or give advice perhaps?

First of all, wow, you were underage when you first signed up for online dating site. That was illegal. I am not sure about where you are from but here in the US, have to be 18 or older to do so. Second of all, good thing now you are an adult. You are young, you got time, and you really want to marry a foreigner, well, be careful. If you want to marry an American, it is getting tougher now due to tougher immigrant laws and more red tape. Many countries are feeling the heat too. Europe is facing that problem right now. Second of all, you met men online but never in person. Ok, I have experience with online dating for long time and have observed how all this function. Many men you have met and you chatted a lot. It is morning there, evening here or evening there, morning here (I am in East coast USA which is 12 hours behind your time). Timing is tough. Most men work during the day while it is evening and freetime for you to chat. The other thing is when you have had met men online and never in person is because this is a very HUGE investment. I have written an e-book regarding this called, "To Marry or Not to Marry a Foreign Bride" and this deals with investments, timing, and type of relationship. The farther apart each other, the harder it is. Say, for me, it will cost me about 3 to 5 thousand dollars for a single trip. Say staying for 3 weeks to 4 weeks and no way I can get to know you equal to a year to two years IN PERSON if I met someone locally. Then the man has to spend a lot of money to apply for K1 visa including application, lawyer fees, application fees, paying for your airfare to come here to marry within 90 days of approval. Today in Western nations more and more are unemployed or underemployed. IN the US, the groom has to have at least 15,000 dollars annually to sponsor his newly wedded foreign bride. I know life is tough in the Philippines and I never been there however, I understands your life because I went on missions to Central America and its very similar economically, culture (Spanish and a lot of English speaking people in Central America). So, I know. I like to say more but I made some good points here. But I pray you will have success in marrying a foreign man. By the way K1 visa takes 8 to 16 months to process and waiting that long time. So... is this worth it? Also some men you may have talked to are married men. I heard horror stories from Filipinas. One got caught and expelled from the Phils. And she was stuck with being separated. Cant afford to have an annulment to end her marriage.

Talking of horror stories! A cousin of a friend of mine got tangled up with a seemingly professional and very intellectual Brazilian. After about 6 months of sending her gift of cash, jewelry he offered to send her a round trip 1st class plane ticket to meet him in Puerto Vallarta where they were to leave on a Carnival Cruis for almost a week. He lavished her with gifts while buying her a new set of special luggage and new outfits. They had planned to get married in his home town after visiting her parents for his permission. Unfortunately at the last minute, he had obviously paid a fake Doctor to say that he was contagious, with a self induced fever. However the Dr. Had convinced her that she needed to return home and see her own doctor or she would be detained and then quarantined in a local hospital that was substandard and may not return home for some time. She took the Dr's advice and her new fiance' promised that he would see her in a few weeks and everything would go as planned. Everything she knew about him was an elaborate fake/hoax. On the flight home at the licenciado Gustavo Diaz international Airport in Mexico she was detained and arrested with over $500,000 in brown heroin contained in the 6 "special luggage pieces, full of new outfits. That was in 2009. She is still serving time as she was given a life sentance, which was reduced to a 15 year term!

It isn't difficult
There's rules to follow with it. I have been with a woman for three years irl that I met on Facebook. It's just distance is the reason 90% of those relationships fail. I was a few days away from my girlfriend so it was much easier for us to meet as opposed to going halfway around the world

Just kinda curious to why you're looking for a foreigner, to get involved with...?

Because the Creator did not create us to have relationships online. . And I have a belief that there are no real people on any of these free dating sites.. it's just like I'm a real man but you don't exist nor does anybody else I could ever interact with you're a real chick but anybody you interact with is going to be if you're not real right if you're getting this message and that's unreal.. did you know Stanley Morgan investors did a study and they found that by year 2030 50% of the women ages 22 to 44 are going to be single and without children. Awesome was

Quote:
So like I've been on and off in online dating for years now. I'm 23 now and I started like 17 or almost 18 I think? Sure, I've met some guys online but never in person since I really wanted to be with a foreigner. Even just talking online, I too had to deal with heartaches as well.

What's your story? Or do you have something to say or give advice perhaps?

Does anyone really need to ask this question? Isn't the answer glaringly obvious? For those who just stand staring at the big shiny object in the sky as it melts the few remaining brain cells that managed to survive the constant drug and alcohol abuse of the long forgotten teen years, I will keep this short sweet and to the point.
The simple reason online or "Tech Romances" do not survive is because they are founded on DISTRUST. Any relationship that will sprout, take root, and grow into a strong, flexible, and eventually unbreakable entity that will spend its life supporting and nurturing the branches, leaves, and seeds of the generations that will follow, must be founded and established on trust. It used to be that when tou first met a potential partner or spouse, you did so in person. You were able to look them in the eye, see the way they reacted to certain questions or things, get to know them as a person. You knew they were real, but the very first thing you had to do, whether you realized it or not, was learn to TRUST them. At first it was little things, then larger secrets, and over time you trusted them with your heart and ultimately with your life and well being. The reality is you had to TRUST them before you could LOVE them. And that my friends is the simple TRUTH of the questions posed. The reason that 98% of Tech Romances fail is because they begin with DISTRUST. Think about it. At the same time you start chatting up that sexy girl in the picture, you have already planted a seed of doubt because you know that there is a better than 50% chance that the sexy girl in the picture is an old, fat pedophile wearing a stained wife beater and no underwear while he taps away at the keys of his $5000 computer trying to convince you to put $40 on her Cashapp so she can buy a 50cent condom and gas to drive the two miles to meet you for sex. And over time this is exactly what you begin to expect from every girl you chat with and DISTRUST is the very first feeling or emotion your future relationships try to take root in. The simple TRUTH is A relationship will VERY RARELY stand tall and firm on a foundation of DISTRUST and do not survive long enough for the seeds of LOVE to be planted.

Quote:
So like I've been on and off in online dating for years now. I'm 23 now and I started like 17 or almost 18 I think? Sure, I've met some guys online but never in person since I really wanted to be with a foreigner. Even just talking online, I too had to deal with heartaches as well.

What's your story? Or do you have something to say or give advice perhaps?

Hi I'm Liz. I was born male, but by the age of 3 my parents should have known I was Transgender. but they ignored it. and punished me for being feminine. Anyway I got married, met her in Norman actually, and we were married nearly immediatly after my fifth asking lol. that was 16 years ago, she died just before our 5 anniversary. So I haven't been with anyone for 12 years nearly.l My only suggestion is when you sleep w someone you create a bond. Physics can't approve it and they cant deley it dotjes/ and that cond can be a tool if you use it as such to take down other barrieeres in your life. Just give it all a little patience :)

Liz that;s heart breaking. My condolences.Best Wishes/

Quote:
So like I've been on and off in online dating for years now. I'm 23 now and I started like 17 or almost 18 I think? Sure, I've met some guys online but never in person since I really wanted to be with a foreigner. Even just talking online, I too had to deal with heartaches as well.

What's your story? Or do you have something to say or give advice perhaps?

well? Because it's not real....it's virtual....again I say NOT REAL.....if you're DATING someone, you're dealing with them face to face....on websites etc.....you don't get together for coffee, or dinner....you don't go to shows, movies, sporting events, whatever.....you dont even hear a voice.....so you don't REALLY know for sure that youre not chatting with some guy with Popeye forearms from whackin' off too much......good luck with that....