1TrueLoveSeeker: Serve Love (by giving) or Self (by taking)

I've missed someone to just hold & mutually adore since I became what I call "suddenly single". I'm laid back & usually go with the flow. I prefer slower activities to enjoy the one I'm with more fully - even outside of dating. I like walks, trails, local events like fairs, festivals & outdoor concerts. I like traveling on usually one day trips to see interesting or historic or fun places & bargain shopping. I was raised Baptist but think the relationship with God is more important than any denomination. My go to music is Southern Gospel & I write that kind of music & was in such a quartet once locally as a bass singer. & would possibly like it at a church level again someday. I was a favorite male soloist at my old church & I kind of miss that. I go to churches to hear such concerts too. I like other genres as long as it isn't blaring, nasty or foul mouthed. I hope to find a good place to do charity work in the future after certain major tasks at home are over. I prefer to meet any lady only expecting good company without expecting anything physical. I want to know a woman's heart & let God bring us together in His time if it does. I've learned that the physical with love added to the mix it intensifies the pleasure because I'm GIVING love & not TAKING for selfish whims. I prefer a lady worth the wait that wants to be seen as worth more than some jerk's joy toy. All of you are, to be honest. I am between churches at present as mine has turned into a social club. Age, race, disabilities, or if you still have kids at home & such mean less than true love. I welcome aa dad & grandpa role. I come to this site expecting ladies closer to my age & of my race to be what I will attract, but in fact am well open to anything that's true love. I like researching my family tree & have very historic people in it & am finding more. I am one who doesn't want to push you into anything you aren't ready to do, especially with romance or the physical. We'd be living a lie if either pressure the other before we BOTH are ready for whatever it is. I'm hesitant to make a move until I have a sign you are ready to "go there" with whatever it is. It's not a lack of confidence but more of respecting you like you deserve. I don't mind subtle hints you want to take us in any specific direction as it may possibly spark me into making a move you would like. I would prefer we be so open & honest that we aren't afraid to talk about whatever comes to mind when it appears. You won't offend me if you want to talk about what's on your mind calmly. It would feel good to know you trust me enough to feel open to talk to me about anything. If I message you & you aren't interested, just don't respond. I'm doing that myself so why be a hypocrite. If we become serious, I'm open to moving since I'm retired, but it may take a while as I'd have to sell my home first. It's needs repairs & is getting too much to want to have them done. I am wanting to eat more naturally & do exercises, but no running or other harder exercises until I better can handle it. I am considering Christian yoga where I uses Christian based words instead of some other faith's chants. I like walking more walking & such constantly moving activities. I don't see myself being a total health nut, but eating better with healthier movements is what I want. I live alone & without a life partner, it's hard to be motivated to do that. I like watching sporting events but hate the statics of it & am not a sports fanatic. I wouldn't mind learning to dance, ride horses or motorcycles if that's your thing. I haven't fished, camped out, & other such things in a long time to please my late wife who had no desire for them. I might try them again. I want to date at first as friends only & be more if we grow naturally in that direction. It makes love grow & prevents regrets.

I'm very laid back and happy go lucky. But we all have things we have no interest in or views we totally disagree with. If we are opposites, I won't hate you for whatever that thing is. Please return the favor. We all have our downsides. I could promote myself as Mr. Awesome, but if true love has a chance to grow, openness & honesty, respect & trust re required 100%. I think it would be unfair to waste your time on me just to find those negatives things out later. I'm generally reserved & conservative in my nature, but the more politically Liberal, Socialist, or Communist leaning you are, the more we won't last. If you're politically neutral, I'm OK with that. I'm a one man - one woman kind of man & won't allow outside partners as a couple. It's cheating - even with mutual consent. I don't like the bar, club or party scenes. I want nothing to do with drugs & weed. I approve of CBD oils for legit medical reasons though. My dad died of emphysema, so I reject any kind of smoking. I prefer a non-drinker but can tolerate you having a glass of wine with a romantic meal, even though I have a prescription I take that won't let me join you. I have meds my doctors make me take for seizure prevention. I had one once & have been fine since though. As a teen, I foolishly didn't care for my teeth, so I have dentures now. I like a beard or goatee on me but have no issue being clean shaven or have just a moustache. That's the worst of me as much as I can think of. I am open to most anyone accepting these preferences, but I do want to grow in my faith, with or without you. Thus, a good Chrisitan lady is a huge plus. I'm not a charismatic Christian myself. I want you to be you and not change to please me & hope you return the favor. I would give you time to do things you love that I don't. Stay the angel I fall for & we'll be sure to set time aside for those things you love that I may not on a regular basis. I'd rather make my lady happy by not having her change once we're a couple by controlling you like that, for with such changes (both ways), we both lose. I have been well trained to be a "put her first" kind of guy. The right lady will come before me as much as I can. I'd rather be with my lady than doing most anything else. I love hugging her, cuddling her, and doing anything to be near her. I find that attitude causes true love to grow if it's mutual - and being wanted & respected that much makes love true & strong. What lady in her right mind doesn't want that? I'm not desperate for a woman, so my love needs earned too. For the widows out there, I live it too. If a man has loved you wrong, come try me as I love giving my woman random hugs & sneak in quick kisses often every day. I think I have the kind of heart a lady done wrong will appreciate. If interested, I don't mind you making the first move, but if no answer, I don't think we're a match. But message me here & if I'm interested, we'll set up a time for me to meet you on your home turf & I prefer you to pick a public place where you feel safe for us to meet. If I had bad intentions, I wouldn't do that. Just start slowly as friends & let time take things where it will or won't go. I have to meet in person first before exchanging contact info/ This lets us both know the other isn't a scam artist - as they never would meet you in person. I figure let's dine out - even if it's just a burger joint & decide from there if we go where you want or if I go home. Before I return home, we can exchange contact info if we both want to. By meeting me somewhere in this way, I can't be a stalker & know where you live, among other info. If you like this "put her first" attitude & want a guy who willing to think of your needs above his like that, then despite my flaws, considering me might be worth your time.

southern gospel music ancestry local events/bargain shopping trips or driving to wherever to relax bargain shopping walking anywhere zoos/amusement parks/historic sites growing spiritually cuddle time family time helping abused women & children charity volunteering i cherish being around children