Things That Should Never Be on Your Profile
By Daniela McVicker
How well is your dating profile working for you? Are you attracting the type of person who interests you? Are you attracting people at all? If not, you aren’t alone. Many people struggle with online dating. For many of those people, it’s their profiles that are creating the problem. Sometimes, their profiles are missing important elements. However, many other cases the issue is with the information they have chosen to share. Check out the following list of things that should never be on your dating profile.
Selfies as Your Profile Pictures
You have the option of including several pictures in your profile. You may be wondering what pictures are best to sure. However, it may be best, to begin with what you should leave off.
First and foremost, please resist the temptation to use selfies of any kind. Even with filters, they are rarely flattering. They also give the wrong impression. Think about it. When would a selfie ever be appealing to someone who doesn’t already know you?
What’s wrong with a selfie? First, they’re rarely flattering. Basically, it’s just a picture of you indicating that whatever else may be going on, you should be the featured element. Seriously, turn the camera around! Instead, your main picture should be of high quality, clear picture of you that highlights your face.
Other shots that are appealing can include you playing sports, holding or playing with animals, or simply being out in nature. Avoid poses where you’re flexing. Finally, be sure to rotate new pictures into your profile.
A Self-Indulgent or Over-the-Top Bio
For some reason it’s become trendy to post online dating profiles that are negative, demanding, or boastful. You’ve probably seen some of these yourself. They often contain lines such as:
- I am a queen and I expect to be treated as such.
- Don’t contact me if you only watch Rick and Morty because it’s trendy.
- My band comes first. Expect to take a backseat to that.
- If your car is more than five years old, move on.
- I bench 225 and am looking for someone who looks good next to me.
Why post things that make you come off as a demanding, egotistical snob? Instead, be genuine. Share your personality. Describe your interests and passions in detail. That’s what will grab the interest of those most likely to click with you. Don’t forget to add in a bit of romance. After all, this is a dating site. Remember that some people are so passionate about finding a match that they’ll hire writing companies to help them craft the perfect love letters.
It should go without saying, but posting false or misleading information about yourself is just creepy and weird. You may get more action at first if you lie about your height, weight, age, job, and income. Still, the truth always comes out, and that’s a surefire way to lose your chance to truly make a connection with anyone.
Disingenuous Information About Your Interests
Of course, it’s also possible to be pretty obnoxious when describing your interests as well. First and foremost, be honest. Don’t describe yourself as a passionate skier if you go to Colorado once a year and spend the majority of your trip drinking in the lodge. Instead, choose passions and interests that you truly love and take part in on a regular basis. Remember that Badoo uses your interests to find matches for you. Do you want to be matched with someone who truly shares your passions? Of course, you do! So, be honest. Even if your interests are a bit obscure, there are surely people out there who share them with you.
People are seeking both hookups and relationships with fun people who are interested in the same things they are. Nobody wants to waste their time on someone who is dramatic, high maintenance, demanding, or dishonest. So, relax and be genuine. Post flattering pictures that highlight your best attributes and show your passion for life. Share things that truly interest you, and always be honest when describing yourself.