Why does it have to be about sex (14)
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safegambler1 OP 3 Posts Pittsburg, Kansas, USAMay 18, 2023 6:13 PM UTCWhy do the men always think a relationship has to be about sex. I am a male, I am h*rny all the time, but I also realize that there is so much more to a relationship than sex. Honestly if you will take the time to get to know each other, you will find that the sex is better and far more rewarding.
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Apr 28, 2025 1:08 PM UTCBecause that is what is most important. Unless your fucking somebody you are a nobody. Can’t f*ck yourself even though some people tell you to that is just not possible. So in order to f*ck you gotsta have somebody f*ck. People have been fucking for millions of years. Dogs f*ck, cats f*ck, turtles f*ck, frogs f*ck. Fucking has to he done so might as well get on board and do it.
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Apr 28, 2025 2:00 PM UTChttps://youtu.be/6RvAiJUgjFI?si=_DmjLfuDFe34gPNG
Dogs do it. Frogs do it. Let's Fall in Love.
Frank Sinatra and Shirley MacClaine did it. Let's Fall in Love. -
Apr 29, 2025 12:12 PM UTCRelationships that base itself on sex never last. There is more to a relationship. Always enjoyed it, but more enjoyed spending time together in the kitchen, cuddling on the couch watching movies, or just spending time doing those stupid things. Just going into her craft room and watching her work on projects was enough most of the time...and she would do the same when I would play video games. Sitting out of the porch watching the storms roll in was a favorite activity. And Yet, when we did have sex, it was mind-blowing...because of the connections we made outside of the bedroom.
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Apr 29, 2025 12:19 PM UTCRelationships based on sex can last! Just because that is what you did does not mean that is the way it is for everybody. I know lots of couples that do nothing together but f*ck. The rest of their days and nights are with other people. PD once again you think you know everything about everybody.
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May 9, 2025 12:45 AM UTCRelationships based on marriage don't last.
Nice to have a beautiful woman to behold, but when you take away the sex, there is not much left there whether in marriage or outside marriage. Most people do not have enough common threads for any meaningful connection. Great to find someone with same interests. I like to walk and hike and bicycle ride. I like to rollerblade. But it is hard to find any of those women on the internet. I should have been more assertive when I lived in the cities, but working the graveyard did not help for personal life. As they say, "Men are from Mars and women are from Venus." The other adage is about Cats and Dogs.
If we were highly successful, would we be here?
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May 9, 2025 11:33 PM UTC
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Relationships based on marriage don't last.
Nice to have a beautiful woman to behold, but when you take away the sex, there is not much left there whether in marriage or outside marriage. Most people do not have enough common threads for any meaningful connection. Great to find someone with same interests. I like to walk and hike and bicycle ride. I like to rollerblade. But it is hard to find any of those women on the internet. I should have been more assertive when I lived in the cities, but working the graveyard did not help for personal life. As they say, "Men are from Mars and women are from Venus." The other adage is about Cats and Dogs.
If we were highly successful, would we be here?
Here we are hoping for a few crumbs.
You're right. Take away the sex and most modern women have nothing else to offer. They could have more to offer but have been brain washed into believing that just the fact that they exist means men should value them above all else. So given that, why should a women try to be more then the sum of her physical parts? -
May 10, 2025 2:06 AM UTCIt doesn't have to be about sex. It's about respect. My marriage lasted 22 years and still would be existent if she hadn't died. The sex was great, but is lessened over the years as she went thru the "change." The relationship never weakened. Perhaps I'm the exception to the rule. Perhaps I just know how to do it right. I could have forced her to perform in the bedroom but I chose not to out of respect for her. Spending time together was good enough for me. We went the last three years of the relationship without any sexual adventures w/o any cheating on either side.
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May 10, 2025 5:56 PM UTC
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It doesn't have to be about sex. It's about respect. My marriage lasted 22 years and still would be existent if she hadn't died. The sex was great, but is lessened over the years as she went thru the "change." The relationship never weakened. Perhaps I'm the exception to the rule. Perhaps I just know how to do it right. I could have forced her to perform in the bedroom but I chose not to out of respect for her. Spending time together was good enough for me. We went the last three years of the relationship without any sexual adventures w/o any cheating on either side.
My marriage lasted 28 years. What destroyed it was typical of how women view men including their husbands. Once a man is viewed as weak by a woman she then looses respect for him. In my case I started suffering from a ruptured disc in my neck. I tried for years to get proper treatment for it. I eventually did get surgery on my neck during my divorce. Unfortunately before that happened she saw weakness in me and decided I was no longer worthy of her and divorced me.
It's a very common occurrence for women to divorce if a husband gets sick or looses his job and doesn't get a job fast enough or one at lower pay. For most women it's all about themselves and anything they see that takes away from their comfort is cast aside. Love is never something that I believe women experience except for the love they have for themselves. -
May 10, 2025 7:04 PM UTCI guess you just need to pick better women. Never had that issue and I switched jobs many times with her.
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May 10, 2025 7:23 PM UTCIt doesn't have to be about sex. We can all enjoy a platonic relationship like the kind we get on here. The joys of platonic relationships. The internet is rich with them. We have a wealth of platonic relationships right here.
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May 10, 2025 7:32 PM UTCOut of respect for their wives not wanting sex after marriage, many husbands live celibate lives. One of the perks of marriage. Takes relationships to a new level. Committed friendships without sex. So enduring.
Friends With Benefits. The benefit of not having sex and being married. Got to have respect for that. To death do us part. Aw the advantages of marriage -
May 10, 2025 9:32 PM UTC
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I guess you just need to pick better women. Never had that issue and I switched jobs many times with her.
A lot of people say that you picked the wrong person when things go wrong and divorce happens, but up until things went wrong I had a great marriage. I even had good sex up until the end. But sometimes you get a women that's not typical so good for you for getting lucky because luck is what it all comes down to. The majority of women now are extremely selfish. Gone are the day's of women who were taught by their mother how to be wives. We now have women that are taught by feminism how to be wives and selfishness runs rampant.
Perhaps you weren't married long enough to experience divorce. If you look at dating sites you will see they are full of women who divorced in their 50s and 60s. In fact there's a thing called grey divorce.
From Wikipedia:
Grey divorce
Divorce of older couples in long-lasting marriages
Overview
Grey divorce or late-life divorce is the demographic trend of an increasing divorce rate for older ("grey-haired") couples in long-lasting marriages, a term typically used for people over 50. Those who divorce may be called silver splitters. Divorcing late in life can cause financial difficulties.
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May 11, 2025 2:05 AM UTCThink I might try one of those.