Dating Over 50 stinks.....LOL (78)

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this dating thing over 50 and starting out again kinda stinks.....LOL, anyone else running into this?

I met my second wife online who lived a few miles from me, lasted 13 years.
The frustration and challenge is that it sometimes takes many dates to find someone that is a chemistry match
with shared interests.
I use Astrology to look up a dates sign which can give some insight to chemistry and to whether there is compatibility.
Even then peoples individual "issues" and past experiences come into play after a few dates.
So many post really bad pictures with negativity in their profiles which is a huge turnoff.
Many times when you are not looking the best things happen with a chance meeting.
Spend the time to chat before meeting, remember actions come from the heart, words come from the mind.

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this dating thing over 50 and starting out again kinda stinks.....LOL, anyone else running into this?

Yes, totally! I would like to chat with you and maybe we can turn this around with some good old fashioned dirty fun!

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this dating thing over 50 and starting out again kinda stinks.....LOL, anyone else running into this?

A lot of people especially women put themselves back into the dating world by divorcing a good man for little to no reason. Men typically marry for the long haul but women marry with an eye on leaving if they believe the grass becomes greener on the other side.
Men sacrifice their happiness for their family. Women sacrifice their family for their happiness.

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I’m starting over again, but no one seems interested in old fashioned romance and LTC everyone just want to hop into bed, sorry, I’m Christian not happening. Where are all the good guys? Or should I just give up?

An all to common occurrence. A women marries then divorces when she thinks she can do better. But then finds out her value in the dating market isn't what she was convinced it would be. But no matter what she continues to seek men far out of he league because she's not willing to settle. Except the men she rejects are in all actually out of her league. Those are the men that would be willing to have a real relationship with her but of course they are the ones she see's as beneath her.
The one's she finds attractive are the Chad's and Tyrone's who are happy to bed her but have no other use for her. The attention she receives from the artificially props up her ego and keeps her from understanding that the real men, you know the ones she rejects are who she should be seeking but can't bring herself to do so.
As a Christian myself I have seen far to many women who claim to be Christian in name only and certainly not when it comes to relationships. Gone is the submission to their husband which is so plainly spelled out in the Bible. Oh no they have to have a partnership on their terms(feminism). Many will claim to be submissive. But when questioned you find that they're only submissive until they disagree with her husband but then it becomes her way or the highway.
Then you have the one's that want a Christian husband but he must believe the Bible exactly the way she believes it to be and criticizes or looks down on and disrespects her husband for not being the spiritual leader he should because she thinks she knows better then him.
The reality is most men are far and above the average woman. Most women over value themselves by a magnitude of at least 100. Women bring so little to the table compared to men and don't deserve what men give them, nevertheless men still do it so part of the problem with relationships falls on some men's shoulders. Simpy men need to wake up and stop putting worthless women that just use them on a pedestal.

Completely agree...She wants a Chad, not a man. The problem is that Chad can play the field and doesn't be a stand-up guy. This why many of us Good Guys just don't engage anymore.

It does suck, but I refuse to lose hope.

I just wish it was easier to find Christians that are still in shape.

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It does suck, but I refuse to lose hope.

I just wish it was easier to find Christians that are still in shape.

I do agree that more men should get themselves in shape. But that's just one of the things that men need to do to be more attractive to women. Men have work to make themselves attractive and women are given their attractiveness up front without working for it. But that doesn't stop the average women from being over weight, wearing wigs, caking on the makeup despite it not improving their looks and men definitely not finding it appealing.

Social media has artificially propped up women's value in their own minds. While simultaneously driving down the value of average men in women's minds. We now have 80% of women chasing 20% of the men. And the bulk of those men either don't want most of these women or only want them for sex. They are not going to marry them. The men that will marry you are the average blue or white collar ones. They are quite frankly of higher value then the women that look down on them. They have jobs and a future. They don't need women but want women. Women think they don't need men but do. Despite how terrible modern women act there's no shortage of average that would still have them. But they are completely ignored.

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Marriage and LTRs are no longer of benefit to men but bring many liabilities. Men are usually expected to fulfill all the traditional expectations in a relationship while receiving none of the traditional benefits in return. Sex alone doesn't outweigh the burden of a demanding female.

Definitely little benefit for men in marriage. Men have to check many boxes including being traditional and women check nearly no boxes. They usually only bring looks and sex to the table. Men bring stability and positive cash flow to the table while women are a net drain on the table.

When women decide it's time to leave the relationship they will do everything they can to take that positive cash flow from the man with them as they leave. They will lie cheat and steal whatever they can from him. They somehow have been convinced that they deserve whatever a man has without actually earning it. They may think they have earned it because they far over value their worth and contribution to the relationship.

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this dating thing over 50 and starting out again kinda stinks.....LOL, anyone else running into this?

of course

Aw the insights!

I’m starting over again, but no one seems interested in old fashioned romance and LTC everyone just want to hop into bed, sorry, I’m Christian not happening. Where are all the good guys? Or should I just give up?

keep on praying sister 😁 lots of christian guys out there but usually not on these sites . the right guy will come when you least expect it . just remember good lord willing and the creek dont rise . 😁

When you least expect it is the moment just before you die.

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this dating thing over 50 and starting out again kinda stinks.....LOL, anyone else running into this?

A man wants a lady in public.. a queen in the kitchen .. and a whore in the bedroom.. try that

Past wishes

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this dating thing over 50 and starting out again kinda stinks.....LOL, anyone else running into this?

It did at first, I’m starting to have fun with it now. But I have
No intentions of ever getting married again or even a serious relationship.
I’m definitely living the best time I’ve ever had, I always took care of everyone first. Now I can have my fun!

I'm going to be starting all over again. I'm 54. Haven't dated in years

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this dating thing over 50 and starting out again kinda stinks.....LOL, anyone else running into this?

Hi im Don 57 been here about a year Harker Heights moved here from Washington State have a great job aside from coworkers haven't really met anyone hard worker hard working good morals ethics looking for that other half that completes me for feels, each other's desires and needs just tired of being alone.
For real

I AM IN BEAUMONT TX

Hi! I’m Nico. I’m 44 but I can assure you that I’m an adult. Sad that I have to specify. Anyway. I enjoy the company of a mature woman. Always have. I hope that you will see past my age and we can chat about going out for a night out. Look forward to hearing from you

As we age we become accustom to being set in our ways, were comfortable to our ways! being alone works! So going out to date seem like work! Maybe a interview setting, 20 questions interrogation... we all have that want and yet can't wait for it to be over...Lol!

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this dating thing over 50 and starting out again kinda stinks.....LOL, anyone else running into this?

I agree!

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A man wants a lady in public.. a queen in the kitchen .. and a whore in the bedroom.. try that

Now you get a whore in public, door dash in the kitchen and a Nun in the bedroom.

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I’m starting over again, but no one seems interested in old fashioned romance and LTC everyone just want to hop into bed, sorry, I’m Christian not happening. Where are all the good guys? Or should I just give up?

What you need is a discreet friends with benefits so you can awake your desire of intercourse. Anyway I'm available.

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this dating thing over 50 and starting out again kinda stinks.....LOL, anyone else running into this?

The worlds changed, everybody's scared or gunshy about everything, and thats just the beginning of meeting someone.

Wait until youve known them for a long time and one day, you find yourself with feelings you havent had since you were 20..
Nobody wants to be hurt again, be we arent built to be alone in this world, we ALL need love and companionship.

But afraid to do it over again.. fearing the worst, dating the same "type" of person that attracts you, making the same mistakes over.. and over.. again. Some people accept failure and turn to drugs, a downward spiral to self destruction taking everyone in their life with them especially the ones who they love.

The secret to life is learning from your mistakes and trying to be a better person in this world.

If your not happy with yourself, how can you bee happy with someone else? ~Touche

I am so lost on this site that I don’t know where to go or what 2 do. Yes dating over 50 sucks sometimes.

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this dating thing over 50 and starting out again kinda stinks.....LOL, anyone else running into this?

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this dating thing over 50 and starting out again kinda stinks..

@LilKat I’m starting out all over again. I’m a beginner on here… Maybe you can help me Kat. Is that ok if call you Kat?… It’s 7:08 pm where I’m at now. Hope 2 talk with you soon.

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CityLights

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this dating thing over 50 and starting out again kinda stinks.....LOL, anyone else running into this?

Date sites are the cause. I can't speak for men, but mature women, in an unhappy marriage, divorced or a widow, want to play being a virgin again, only want to play chat tag, after 40 chats, having the guy tell his whole history from the beginning of his world part one. To even just meet for a drink or ? and talk to get to know each other. I think they join a dating site because it's better than reading a Harlequin Romance book. They can read a real guys fantasy, and ask questions, leading him on for more and look at his photos and amuse them selves between msgs.